Do you think charismatic people are born that way? Or do you think it’s more likely that they have trained themselves to be that way? Either way, one true fact stands out about charismatic people: they are often very, very successful. It’s not because they have a ton of training and experience, either – people just generally gather around them and want to hear what they have to say. It’s likely you want to be one of those people, so check out the tip below to see if you can start heading in the right direction.
They Shut Their Mouths and Truly Listen
Asking questions is one of the best ways to show the other person in the conversation that you're actually listening. People who are truly charismatic know how to hold eye contact without making it creepy, but instead warm and trusting. They smile when appropriate. They frown when appropriate. When they nod, you actually know they're listening to what you have to say. They respond with their body language, and not necessarily with their voices or with words. Honestly, that's one of the keys to showing another person in a conversation that they're important, and aren't just a sale or something that will help meet your quota for the month.
If they do choose to speak, they only offer advice or works of encouragement when asked to do so. Listening shows anyone, customer or friend, that you care. It lets them know that the conversation is about them and not about you or what you need. Who do you think "here's what I would do in that situation..." is really about? Though you may be able to offer good advice about a situation, if someone doesn't want the conversation to be about you, don't make it about you. Only speak when you have something that's honestly important to say. When I say "important," I mean important to the other person and not just to you.
